1 Sept 2017

SMART WORK



If you want to be successful in the long run, you have to put long hours into work. You have to start early, before all other people, and you have to stay up late, when everyone else is already enjoying their afternoons and evenings.

On the other hand, it’s really hard to find very clear guidelines on what working smart really means and how it’s different from hard work. It’s very obvious that even if you’re determined that nobody will outwork you, you still have maximum limits regarding working hours that you reach pretty fast; and there’s always someone who’s willing to sleep less than you. On top of that, many people work hard, but only a few become really successful. That’s because smart work is what makes the difference.
As already mentioned, there are some vague ideas out there about what smart work probably means, but this topic is far from analyzed properly, especially if you’d like to really implement some practical advice for becoming a smarter worker andoutperforming others with smart work, not only by investing into long hours, hoping that you will get a streak of good luck some day. Let’s put an end to this.
I’ve been analyzing and observing people who work hard for more than a decade. It always amazed me why some people working hard got so much farther than others. One of the important reasons is, of course, smart work, but what I’ve found out is that most people who are working smart didn’t learn it. They do it intuitively, it’s part of their character, of who they are and how they were raised. Lucky them.
Working hard and working smart are not exclusive of each other. Smart work teaches you to be more productive with your time. If you are happy with your current level of success, then smart work will surely allow you the luxury of not having to work as hard as you otherwise would. But if you want to reach the pinnacle of success in your chosen field, than smart work alone won’t really help.
Rewards come to you when you are not looking for them continuously. When you step out to work with a passion to do your best, you will bring out the best in others as well! That itself is a great reward.



Give anything your best shot and work towards your goals like there is no tomorrow. Be strong willed and work hard to get what you want, because the desire to achieve something is only as strong as the smallest distraction that can take you away from it. Be smart about setting your goals and planning how to achieve your goal. Be smart about making choices in life and then work on making those choice spring you good things. Work hard in making smart choice and work even harder to learn how to make smart choices. Make mistakes but be smart enough to learn from them.
Try to be smart in making your choices in life and work hard towards fulfilling your dreams !
BE SMART !

quotes by APJ Abdul Kalam, will change your LIFE

quotes by APJ Abdul Kalam, will change your LIFE

1- End is not the end, if fact END means "Effort Never Dies". If you get No as an answer, remember NO means "Next Opportunity". So Let's be positive."

2- Dream, dream, dream. Dreams transform into thoughts and thoughts result in action.

3- If you want to shine like a sun. First burn like a sun.

4- To succeed in your mission, you must have single-minded devotion to your goal.

5- We should not give up and we should not allow the problem to defeat us.

6- Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.

7- All of us do not have equal talent. But , all of us have an equal opportunity to develop our talents.

8-If a country is to be corruption free and become a nation of beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are three key societal members who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother and the teacher.

9- Suffering is the essence of success.

10- If you fail, never give up because FAIL means "First Attempt In Learning".

How keep your mind concentrated and calm

How keep your mind concentrated and calm

Often, it is very difficult to keep the mind calm in difficult situations. If the mind is calm, you can overcome many things. So learn what to do to concentrate on the mind.

Think 2 minutes

In a difficult situation, 2 minutes quietly think of the things you've been looking for. Imagine what the consequences would be if doing this thing and not doing it. That means two options will be created in front of you. Now close your eyes for a few seconds and follow your mind whatever you have said and proceed with the situation.

Leave negative thoughts

many people always waste too much time thinking negative. We fear that the bad consequences of that difficult situation will happen? This thought creates fear in mind and the mind does not live on the Thaari. On the contrary, we should think positively about the beautiful results that we will face if we win this situation. This thought builds hope in your mind and strengthens your mind.

Take responsibility

if you have chosen to do a job, do not break their failures on others in difficult circumstances. Keep in mind that by noting the mistakes of others, those people will not stand with you at the next time. If you had the responsibility to accept it, your colleagues would help you to get out of that difficult situation.

Do the same thing at the same time

Keep doing many things at the same time, remember that no work is done properly. If one work is done then take up another task. It is very important to follow this rule in difficult times. If you develop a mind in a number of things at the same time, you will not be able to focus on any one work. That would make the situation worse already worse.

Keep the goal in front of you

in a difficult situation, you usually forget your goals. There is confusion in our mind about why we are doing this thing exactly. Once you have wandered from your goal, your mind will not be concentrated. You will have difficulty in making the decision. First of all, ask your mind what is your goal? They got the answer that according to this, decide on how to fight a difficult situation.

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Simple ways to motivate yourself everyday

Simple ways to motivate yourself everyday

How can you stay motivated in a simple way that works everyday? Here are few of them.

Take a break

The only way you can perform at an optimum level is create a time for rest. I know the life is very hectic and between work and family you are always on the go. And this becomes a problem after a while because you start feeling exhausted and burn out. Even if you don't have time to take a vacation you can take a day or two to decompress. When you come back to work you will be surprised how refreshed you are.

Get motivated

When you need an extra motivational push you can always turn to words or art, but with music you can start creating your playlist of songs which you get inspired. Music can change your mood and lift your spirits like 'Gonna Fly now 'from 'Rocky'.

Celebrate your little wins no matter how small

Celebrating these wins will help you to create positive habits.

Do what you love

Do what you are passionate about and get proficient at it. But be sure that you can make a living from your passion.

Focus

Improve your focus which is the ultimate quality required to get yourself motivated to achieve your goal. Divided attention will not take you where you want to go.

Think about your goals daily

Every time you get distracted you think about your goal and remind yourself why you wanted to achieve this goal at the first place and how important is it for you.

Visualize

Just imagine and visualize what life it would be. That vision of your ideal life will get you motivated to action immediately.Be it house, money, car or fame.

Self talk

Every morning when you are getting ready talk to yourself for few minutes tell yourself five positive things about yourself and you will see your confidence rising quickly.

Everyone has their hopes, dreams and goals but to achieve them in real life we all need some shots of motivation. It's better to motivate yourself. In this way the switch to your life will be in your hands.

motivation is like a shower. You need one everyday to stay nice and motivated.

Best lessons of life


Life is full of challenges. Some people face the challenges and some run away. Those who run away, can never become successful while those who face the challenges of life are always successful in Life. People run away from challenges because they are unaware about the life lessons which one must know to become successful and later realize these lessons too late in life. Here are 7 Life Lessons People Often Learn Too Late In Life. Learn these lessons in your early life so that you don't regret not learning them in future.

1. Work Hard

There is no alternative to hard work for success. Your gender, height, weight, color, etc does not matter when you work hard for success. No matter who or where you are, hard work ensures your success in anything you wish for. Working hard in any task you do will make your future regret-less.

2. Money Is Not The Solution To Every Problem But It Is Most Important

Although most of the things can be brought by money, family time and happiness can not be brought by Money. Success cannot be achieved by power of money. There are many people who are rich but not really happy, and there are many who are not so rich but happy with what they have. Earning money is not wrong, but forgetting your happiness and not spending time with family just to earn material things is biggest failure. Make sure you earn money but do not regret anything in future.

3. Sometimes Silence Is The Best Answer

Sometimes, we have a choice to react to people, opinions or fight to give it a bigger form or just stay silent and let the things settle down in the easy way. However, staying silent when you see someone doing wrong is also not right. When you know that your arguments are not going to affect the opposite person, don't waste your energy and time on such people, stay calm and silent, this will settle down things easily.

4. Solve Your Problems On Your Own

Some people sit and complain about their problems instead solving them. You should know that no one is going to solve your problems but you. If not today, you have to solve them tomorrow anyways so don't sit idol and don't postpone tasks. Stand and start working immediately.

5. Follow Your Heart

Sometimes the biggest distraction from achieving what actually matters is following advices of friends and family. Don't follow what others say, follow what your heart truly wants. If you are successful you will be very happy, if you fail you will be at least satisfied that you tried

doing what you actually wanted and not what your neighbors or friends or family wanted.

6. Importance Of 1%

People want immediate results in everything they do. They forget that a plant does not grow immediately after it is sowed in the soil. Similarly the plant of success will not grow immediately but with patience. You cannot do or learn everything at once, have

patience, take small steps everyday and soon you will reach your goal.

For example if you try to improve your health by 1%daily, your health will be 30% in next 30 days.

7. Importance of Living Life Fully, Now

We promise ourselves and tell those around us that we will have a better health and eat healthy food when we get a little more time after completing on going tasks. Yet, deep within we all know that there will be no time better than 'right now' to live life fully. ....

Unbelievable facts

1) A dog has the same ecological footprint as two Toyota Landcruisers; a cat has the same environmental effect as a Volkswagen Golf; two hamsters the same as a plasma TV.

2) In 1251, Henry III was given a polar bear by the king of Norway. He kept it in the Tower of London, on a long chain so that it could swim in the water.

3) Until the 1960′s, the only reliable pregnancy test was to inject a woman’s urine into a female African clawed frog. If the woman was pregnant, the frog would ovulate within 12 hours

4) If all the LEGO bricks ever manufactured were clipped on top of one another, they would make a tower ten times as high as the distance to the Moon.

) If you drilled a tunnel straight through the Earth and jumped in, it would take you exactly 42 minutes and 12 seconds to get to the other side.

Inspiring quotes for good life

Amazing quotes that inspires you

It's ok if you fall down and lose your spark. just make sure that when you get back up, you rise as the whole damn fire.

Strength grows in the moments when you think you can't go on but you keep going anyway.

Remember everything you have faced, all the fears you have overcome.

Everything will fall into place, believe.

My dark days made me strong. or may be I already was strong, and they made me prove it.

Courage doesn't mean you don't get afraid. courage means you don't let fear stop you.

You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.

Never trust your fears, they don't know your strength.

Strength doesn't come from what you can do.it comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn't.

Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.

My tears may continue to fall, but my strength will continue to rise.

He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak. strong convictions precede great actions.

Tough times never last, but tough people do.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.

Life is very interesting. in the end, some of your greatest pains becomes your greatest strengths.

Stay strong. stand up. have a voice.

Go ahead, tell me that I am not good enough. tell me I can't do it. because I will show you over and over again that I can.

You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. that makes you a winner right there.

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within strength, courage and dignity.

She is clothed with strength and dignity and laughs without fear of the future.

This is the year I will be stronger, brave, kinder, unstoppable and this year, I will be fierce.

You've always had the power. my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself.

May my heart be brave, my mind fierce and my spirit free.

Stay strong, make them wonder how you're wonder how you're still smiling.

You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.

The world breaks everyone, then some become strong at the broken places.

Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack.

A firm tree does not fear the storm.

Shallow people believe in luck. strong people believe in cause and effect.

You have power over your mind not outside events. realize this, and you will find your strength.

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.

It doesn't get easier you just get stronger.

29 Aug 2017

shape your life


Design the Life You Want

"Excitement is the more practical synonym for happiness, and it is precisely what you should strive to chase. It is the cure-all…’What would excite me?’
So often we limit our own happiness or excitement by sticking to convention.   the synonym to happiness is excitement and the opposite of excitement is boredom. So many of us are bored, trudging through our best years in anticipation of the elusive retirement, failing to recognize that retirement is rarely as fulfilling as desired and an extended life sentence is not a promise. Designing a lifestyle NOW that serves you NOW should be the ultimate goal.
Here are a couple ways I↞ suggests we can do that:
  1. Invest in self-care. “By working only when you are most effective, life is both more productive and more enjoyable.”
  2. Less is more. “Focus on being productive instead of busy.”
  3. The time is now. “The Timing is never right, if it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually’, just do it and correct course along the way.”
  4. Ask for forgiveness, not permission. “Get good at being a troublemaker and saying sorry when you really screw up.”
  5. Play up your strengths. “Focus on better use of your best weapons instead of constant repair.”
  6. Do what you want. “…Opposed to what you feel obligated to do”.
  7. Time is money. Focus on relative income, which accounts for time and dollar. Rather than absolute income that focuses only on the dollar amount.

HAPPINESS


HAPPINESS is one of the most sought-after goals in life, yet for many it seems to be elusive. It’s easy to delude ourselves into thinking, “When I just have that nice house and new car, then I can be happy.” But in reality, happiness is available to all of us, right now. A big house or a new car won’t actually make you happier; it’s the simple joys in life that bring true happiness. Read on to learn 15 simple ways that you can start living a happier life today.
1. Do What You Love
If your passion is playing soccer, writing poems, or teaching children how to swim, make time to do it. You’ll find that when you’re doing what you love, you’re filled with joy. How much better does that sound than forcing yourself do something you don’t like?
2. Help Others
Sometimes after we’ve achieved our own personal goals, we still feel empty inside because we haven’t made a meaningful contribution to someone else’s life. When we volunteer or help others, it feels good to just be of service to someone else. The impact we make feels fulfilling and is a big potential source for our own happiness.
3. Be Thankful
When you think of all the things that you have to be grateful for, you realize how blessed you already are. Without even realizing it, we take our basic necessities for granted — a roof over your head and plenty of food to eat. By appreciating the things that you already have, you’ll begin to feel happier in your life.
4. Share With Others
When we share our thoughts, our time, and our abilities with others we feel better for it. A life lived without sharing can become lonely. When you share with others, they’ll feel great towards you and help you to feel more joy in your own life.
5. Smile More
Practice smiling more and see how it affects you internally, as well as those around you. You can always afford to give a smile. Smiling can make you happier — even if you have to force it, you’ll still feel better.
6. Exercise
When was the last time you went to the gym or worked out? Exercise reduces stress andreleases endorphins, also known as a “runner’s high.” Playing sports is a fun way to exercise as well, whether it’s kicking around a soccer ball or shooting hoops.
7. Seek Out a Life Coach
A life coach will help you to evaluate your life and why you’re not feeling happy in it. Maybe you’re holding limiting beliefs or you have an emotional block without realizing it. By speaking to a life coach, you can uncover why you’re actually unhappy and what you can do to feel better.
8. Find Ways to Manage Stress
Don’t let stress rob you of your birthright to be happy. You deserve to be happy, and it wouldn’t be right to let stress get in the way. Practices such as meditation can help you to manage stress better and feel great.
9. Eat Healthy
It’s much more challenging to feel truly happy when you’re sick. But when you eat right, you feel better both physically and mentally. And you’ll avoid that guilty feeling that you just pigged out on junk food.
10. Spend Time With Your Loved Ones
There’s no replacement for spending quality time with your loved ones. We’re social beings, even if you’re an introvert or a loner. People love spending time with their friends and family for good conversation, bonding, and some laughs. Life’s too short to live it completely alone.
11. Dump Negative Thinking
You already know that negative thinking will bring you down. So how do you stop it? Become more aware of it and try replacing your negative thoughts with some positive ones. Spend less time with negative people and more time with positive people.
12. Give More Gifts
You don’t have to give expensive gifts; sometimes a poem, a quick note, or a thoughtful email will brighten someone else’s day, and yours. Share what you can give to all the wonderful people in your life.
13. Forgive and Forget
Holding a grudge will harm you more than the person you’re holding it against. Ask yourself, “What would it take for me to let go of the past?” and notice how you feel when you let go of your anger for a few seconds. Focus instead on a bright future and you’ll feel better for it.
14. Take a Walk in Nature
Spending time out in nature can be very refreshing and renewing, especially when you’re living in an artificial, manmade world. Taking a walk in your local woods or park and getting some fresh air can allow you to appreciate the beauty of the natural world.
15. Be Yourself
As Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Accept who you are, just be yourself, and you’ll feel a world of difference.

27 Aug 2017

Reason for broken marriages

Discussions about marriage, divorce, gender equality, and homosexuality are often filled with ugly rhetoric, while the opinions of knowledgeable experts are simply ignored. Not surprisingly, India’s rising divorce rates are routinely blamed on modernization, the break from our past, and the embrace of so-called ‘western’ values.

However, there’s nothing western about divorce, as marrying for life was also a western tradition that only began to suffer with urbanization, changing social dynamics following the World Wars, and the rise of advertising and consumerist culture.
Today, corporate culture with its emphasis on career advancement, productivity, and profits, has increased the stress on marriages, not just in the west, but here in India too. So, instead of playing the blame game, let’s hear what the experts have to say.

Causes For Rising Divorce Rates In India

According to some psychologists, divorce rates in India have increased by 100 percent in just 5 years! This figure may seem exaggerated, but reports suggest that they may be underplayed instead, as some cities like Kolkata witnessed a 350 percent increase in divorces from 2003 to 2014.
With our great cultural and social diversity, the causes of divorce in India are not easy to pinpoint, but marriage counselors and psychologists who treat couples have a unique insight into this modern problem.

Changed Priorities

“Most urbanites put their careers and earning power ahead of everything else, often neglecting personal relationships and family, as well as their own health and wellbeing”
Over the past two decades, there has been a dramatic change in the lifestyles and priorities of young adults because of rapid urbanization and overpopulation, corresponding with globalization and the spread of corporate work culture. As a result, most city dwellers face tremendous pressure to perform, competing for scarce resources and employment opportunities from an early age.

Not surprisingly, most urbanites put their careers and earning power ahead of everything else, often neglecting personal relationships and family, as well as their own health and wellbeing. Even in marriages where couples put their relationship first, they often struggle to make time for each other and as anyone will tell you, relationships take a lot of work.

Nuclear Families

“Without extended families, couples are more dependent on each other for social & emotional interaction, but men & women have significant differences in both requirements, often leading to conflict & disillusionment”
This is another markedly urban phenomenon, as most households in cities are occupied by nuclear families. Monetary constraints, along with the need for privacy and personal space make nuclear families the obvious choice, but this does have a downside.
Social bonding and emotional fulfillment was in the past satisfied primarily by extended family, and this leaves a clear void in modern nuclear families, as most couples spend hours at work and have little time to connect.
Moreover, couples are now more dependent on each other for social and emotional interaction, but men and women have significant differences in both social and emotional requirements. This often leads to dissatisfaction and conflict if the partners are not able to find a middle ground.

Gender Equality

“Women who are financially secure, are less dependent on their husbands & therefore less subservient, which is a problem for dominating or chauvinistic men – financial independence also makes easier for women to walk out of bad or abusive relationships”
To be honest, the world and notably India, are still a great distance away from true gender equality, but women certainly enjoy greater financial and psychological independence than ever before. According to some psychologists, this positive development may also have an undesirable outcome.

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